INTJ development
Rather than talking in terms of Fe, let's talk in terms of what you
really think you want to develop. Good type development, in my opinion,
involves maximizing on your strengths in such a way that you compensate
for your weaknesses.
It sounds like you
a) want to express your emotions
b) be able to connect with people
c) have others see you as friendly
If you don't normally do any of these things, "a" is probably the hardest, followed by "b" and then "c."
To accomplish "a," I'd advise you to
-start by telling people how you feel about things.
-If you can figure out how to use hand gestures to illustrate what you are feeling, then that helps too.
-You may also have to consciously smile and frown (with exaggeration too) to get into the habit of externalizing your feelings.
Though this ability is quite separate from being able to connect with people or having them see you as friendly. This just makes you look emotional, which you may or may not truly desire.
To accomplish "b," all you really have to do is show interest in someone's feelings and personal life.
-Walk up to someone you know (let's say your girlfriend).
-Ask her how she's been doing.
-Pay attention to what she says (let's assume she doesn't give a generic answer).
-Ask her how she felt about something that happened.
-Try to imitate the feeling she describes through facial expression.
or
-Listen to someone talk about themselves.
-Ask questions or make comments that convey you understand their perspective.
(yes, this will be clunky and awkward at first.)
For "c," all you really need to do is do things that show you care about someone. Maybe smile a lot and show interest in a person's private life (this will 95% of the time result in gratuitous amounts of small talk).
If you are wondering where I got these general formulae, I just tried to break apart my typical behavior when I am not moody and/or someone in my life seems a little down.
Oh, and whenever someone talks to you, watch them and respond by nodding or something if they turn to look at you while talking. I'm actually in the middle of writing a paper that attempts to pinpoint how to build rapport, so writing this helps me think about it. Did I mention that strong Fe users (especially ESFJ, arguably the best Fe user) remember lots and lots of details about people? Names, birthdays, current dilemmas, children, etc.
It sounds like you
a) want to express your emotions
b) be able to connect with people
c) have others see you as friendly
If you don't normally do any of these things, "a" is probably the hardest, followed by "b" and then "c."
To accomplish "a," I'd advise you to
-start by telling people how you feel about things.
-If you can figure out how to use hand gestures to illustrate what you are feeling, then that helps too.
-You may also have to consciously smile and frown (with exaggeration too) to get into the habit of externalizing your feelings.
Though this ability is quite separate from being able to connect with people or having them see you as friendly. This just makes you look emotional, which you may or may not truly desire.
To accomplish "b," all you really have to do is show interest in someone's feelings and personal life.
-Walk up to someone you know (let's say your girlfriend).
-Ask her how she's been doing.
-Pay attention to what she says (let's assume she doesn't give a generic answer).
-Ask her how she felt about something that happened.
-Try to imitate the feeling she describes through facial expression.
or
-Listen to someone talk about themselves.
-Ask questions or make comments that convey you understand their perspective.
(yes, this will be clunky and awkward at first.)
For "c," all you really need to do is do things that show you care about someone. Maybe smile a lot and show interest in a person's private life (this will 95% of the time result in gratuitous amounts of small talk).
If you are wondering where I got these general formulae, I just tried to break apart my typical behavior when I am not moody and/or someone in my life seems a little down.
Oh, and whenever someone talks to you, watch them and respond by nodding or something if they turn to look at you while talking. I'm actually in the middle of writing a paper that attempts to pinpoint how to build rapport, so writing this helps me think about it. Did I mention that strong Fe users (especially ESFJ, arguably the best Fe user) remember lots and lots of details about people? Names, birthdays, current dilemmas, children, etc.
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